Why a massage is good for you

In my previous life as a frazzled Project Manager, I used to drive between 20,000  and 30,000 miles per year.  As a consequence of all that driving and long hours at the computer, my shoulders were tense most of the time. The job had its own stress and managing a big team isn’t for the faint-hearted! In order to manage the stresses and strains and alleviate this tension, I began to have a monthly full body massage which eased the shoulders and made me relax- a little!

I was  so lucky to have found a lovely masseuse called Linda, when I moved to Northampton, who provided the service from her home. Linda has now become a great friend and not just a therapist. Once a month, late on a Friday afternoon, I would have my stress wiped away and my muscles massaged. Sheer bliss.

Unfortunately when I retired, I had to cut out some luxuries and this was one of them. If I wasn’t driving all this miles and sitting at my computer all day then I wouldn’t need it. Sadly I had to forgo my monthly mssage therapy for a year.

During the year I did not have massages, I began to realised how much I really missed it. Actually,  my emotional me and my physical me missed it to be honest. I realised then that it was not a luxury. I truly didn’t feel as good.

After a year, I knew I would have a bit more cash and decided that I would start the sessions again, if my budget allowed it. So I am back to monthly massages. Today, was a day I look forward to each month. A quick chat and catch up until Linda gets to my stomach, and then she cuts the lights and I zone out and enjoy the massage. Sometimes my shoulders are still a bit tense but she soon sorts that out. From my head to my toes, she ensures all is ….. There are so many benefits of a massage. From improving circulation, relaxin muscles, improving flexibility and joint movements as well as releasing those feel good hormones.

I enjoy the whole session and try to focus on the feeling of my skin and muscles being manipulated and soothed. I come away feeling relaxed, calm and grateful that I am able to afford a little bit of heaven once a month. Together with my weekly yoga session, I am possibly as relaxed as I will ever be.



I know I am new to this but some things just don’t make sense. I can show and tell you things about my life okay, but trying to understand how to make the blog look its best is really challenging me.  I am laying awake in bed thinking about the layout and content for crying out loud! Its supposed to be enjoyable I keep telling myself. As ever, I want to run before I walk. Getting to grips with the terminology is testing me. I mean what the hell is a ‘slug’? I see lots of professional looking blogs out there and I want mine to look like theirs. Perhaps I should just settle for ‘rustic’ looking hahah

So I still don’t understand what the difference is between the menu content thats runs across the top of the page and the categories.  I prefer to work these things out for myself but I am defeated. I know it all takes time, but I want it right now!

So ignore this rant – I am categorising this blog it under ‘Health and Wellbeing’ as it is slowly driving me a bit mad.



Living to be 100


I want to be around to see my grand children and great grandchildren grow up. I want to know what’s is like to be an old lady but not an ill old lady. I am going to try my best to make this happen.

This is what I figure I need to do:

1.Be Positive – it’s good to have an optimistic outlook – not always easy I know 

2. Don’t smoke or take illegal drugs – I don’t

3. Drink alcohol in moderation – I don’t enjoy alcohol as much these days anyway so not difficult 

4. Don’t eat too much sugar – this is a challenge…

5. Keep physically active – I garden, walk, cycle a bit and go to a yoga class once a week. http://www.bbc.com/capital/story/20181210-gardening-could-be-the-hobby-that-helps-you-live-to-100

6. Keep my brain active – browsing, reading and talking does it for me

7. Keep learning new skills – we are learning Spanish and Ballroom dancing just now 

8. Keep smiling – can’t help myself!

9. Have fun – These days I only spend time with people I like and only do the things that make me happy!

10. Stay at a healthy weight  – my love of cooking makes this a challenge too…

It’s World Menopause Day!

I was in my 40’s, when I started to think about the ‘dreaded menopause’. Sadly, I  couldn’t ask my Mum as she died in 1989, aged 52 from breast cancer. This fact has always influenced my decisions about the menopause and its symptoms. 

I knew that I would never take HRT, but at that stage, I never knew what I know now. I still have never taken HRT but I have been tempted. 

In my peri menopause days I used Serenity Cream which I thought had bought me through the menopause symptom free. I faithfully used it through what I thought was my menopause. Then BANG when  I was 52, I really started my menopause which came as a great shock. I started having lots of hot flushes in the evenings from precisely 7pm, about every half an all through the night every night. I read that that SOME women have them for 10 years or more. I told myself that I wasn’t going to be one of them and that it was a mind over matter thing. How wrong can you be … 9 years later I still have hot flushes but thankfully fewer and less frequent and severe. They were a pain in the arse and still are. I can almost conjure one up just by thinking about it! I have a sort of premonition when one is coming, bizarre. I know that it wont last long but sometimes I just have to go outside to cool down as they sometimes make you feel a bit claustrophobic. I have tried all sorts of herbal potions and pills like black cohosh and maca etc over the years and none of them have helped at all with the hot flushes. I now know its just something have to put up with. I dress accordingly in layers and spend a lot of time taking my cardigans on and off! I never wear polo neck jumpers! 

What came on gradually over the the 9 years was the ‘dryness’. Not just skin, but areas of moistness if you get my drift… I hate talking about this but this is the bit which I hate even more than the hot flushes, but just something you have to get used to. 

It used to upset me to think I am not the woman I was and I won’t ever be again, but I have learned to love myself all over again.This new me doesn’t care what people think, she wears what wants, goes out without make up and still has fun! Onwards and upwards! 

Update – World Menopause Day 2019

Well I still have hot flushes a year later. It’s a bit frustrating butIt is what it is. I try not to let it bother me but long for the day when my thermostat returns to normal – if that ever happens!

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